Marriage v/s Single

“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always
with the same person.”... Mignon McLaughin

A few months ago, I read about the nation’s declining rate of birth and somehow it made me ponder on few things. I think, most of my highschool friends are married, and are at least with 1 baby. However, I’m happy to say, I still got tons of friends that aren’t married (haha). Oh! And the number is not declining at an alarming rate (I meant friends that aren’t married).

Why is the nation’s birth rate is declining?

Well, one thing for sure, it’s hard to find families that has more than 6 children these days. Unlike our parents or grandparents era who has like 10 - 12 siblings. Let’s just put it more than 6. Shall we?

1. The 22nd century makes it expensive to have more than 6 children! Taxes, fuel, wet & dry food are expensive. I don’t think you can buy any decent food with just RM3.00 at any big cities in M’sia. Thankfully, I’m glad to say, I can still find good Rm3.00 nasi campur in Sandakan. I’m blessed!!
2. More than 6 children spells CHAOS.
3. Women are getting smarter by the day.
4. MOST IMPORTANTLY..... single population is increasing.

I’m not gonna carry on discussing about nation’s birth rate since I’m not married (yet). I’d like to have a say on my topic today. Marriage v/s Single.

There’s been countless battle on the issue Marriage or Single, which is better and so on.

For me, marriage is sacred. It’s not easy, but at the same time, it’s not suppose to be hell. I remembered someone told me,

“marriage is a job. You need to work for it, to make it work”

People spend roughly RM20K to get married, yet, it only probably takes RM100 to get divorced.
People get married to fornicate and make babies, and later craps about it, and make statements like “how i wish I’m still single” at one point of their later life or say “I never get to buy anything for myself anymore!”... (duh!)

Colleagues and family friends come up to me and say, “Audrey, you’re at a marriageable age already. Bah, bila lagi?” omaigat! Is it so wrong that I’m still single? Is it wrong to be single? What? Now I’m an alien just because I’m still single? Rofl.

Being unmarried, I don’t really know what or how marriage is suppose to be. But, I’d say marriage needs understanding, commitment, sacrifices, tolerance, and Love.

Love alone does not suffice.

Have you ever wonder, some couples dated so long just to find out in the end they don’t want to spend their lives together. Some couple, takes less than a year and boom boom pow, they’re married and few years later, they get divorced. But for some, it’s just meant to be. I call them the lucky ones.

While typing this, it makes me wanna write on. “is there really Mr/Ms. Right.”

Some women/men dread about being single. Why should you? What’s so bad about being single?
Think about it. When you’re single .....

1. You do not have to report duty to anybody called “husband”. Or in a guy case, your WIFE.
2. No calls after 9pm asking where you are, who you’re with, what you’re doing etc etc. (for both men and women)
3. You do not have to wash extra clothes other than yours alone.(for women)
4. No unwanted clothes lying on the floor (for women)
5. No disgusting pee spill all over the toilet bowl (for women)
6. You can earn extra cash when you’re single. Be smart. (for both men and women)
7. Able to shop and pamper yourself. (for both men and women)
8. You can go wherever you want to without worry. At least not about family that is... probably financially only. (for both men and women)
9. You lead your life the way you want it to be. (again, for both men and women)
10. I can go on and on about the greatness being single..... but let me stop before I offend anybody.

I know, some of you might say.... “.....BUT single”. ALONE. DUHHH... what are friends for? Find friends of course! I’m pretty sure that I’m not the only living single girl around.

Though being married has it perks and I bet it’s awesome too. Why?

1. You’ve got a lifetime companion. Growing old together. Sharing ups and downs. Doing things together.....(if you don’t get divorced....)
2. You get kids (I’m not saying you can’t get any kids if you’re single.... there are ways...)
3. The first thing you get up and the last thing you’d do – see that person’s face whom you love so much... (you won’t probably do this when you fight....)
4. Combined income (dunno if it’s a good thing, but it should. Isn’t it?)
5. ...... married people please carry out this list... cause I don’t have anymore. I’m not one, remember?

So there you go. What say you?

To married citizens,
Get married for the right reason. Once married, stay committed.

To my fellow single comrades,
Don’t worry be happy.

Don’t get me wrong with this post people,

I STILL wanna get my feet swept by a charming lad on a chevy, JUST JOKING.

What I meant, I do still see myself in a white dress though a very blurry picture in my imagination. I still want to get swept and fall into the arms of my knight shining armour, rescuing me in the jungles.And get married. Hehe.... STILL JOKING

What I really meant was, I still believe in the institution of MARRIAGE

What I’m saying is, be with someone you’re in love and you won’t regret to be married with to even though through good and most importantly, BAD TIMES.

I do not dread about being single. I like my single life.  hassle free.....

I leave you with,

By Bruce Fisher and Robert Alberti
Many people marry for the wrong reasons, among them 1) to overcome loneliness, 2) to escape an unhappy parental home, 3) because they think that everyone is expected to marry, 4) because only "losers" who can't find someone to marry stay single, 5) out of a need to parent, or be parented by another person, 6) because they got pregnant, 7) because "we fell in love," ... and on goes the list.


Cheers mate.



Signing off,
The happy single sepet eyed girl
“to be or not to be”